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You’re not “trying.” You’re either doing or you’re not.
Whenever you say you’re trying to do something, the underlying feeling is one of struggle and you’re telling your brain that you’re not good enough.
Saying “I am trying” not only sabotages you in relationship to yourself – it also influences how you present yourself to the world.
Now, I will be the first person to tell you that your relationship with yourself is more important than any other relationship in your life.
AND relationships are the number one currency in life.
It sounds cheesy but it really is about who you know. That lesson has been demonstrated to me time and time again. If Lorenzo and I hadn’t cultivated our relationship this program wouldn’t be here right now. And you wouldn’t be receiving these texts.
So let’s say you’re speaking to someone you respect. Someone whose relationship matters to you or with whom you’d like to deepen in relationship.
They’re asking about your business and you say “I’m trying to make more money.”
Ok, that’s honest, I respect that.
Now feel into “I am making more money.”
Perhaps this isn’t true YET.
But it shows your commitment. Your dedication. That making more money is something that is inevitable for you.
There’s power behind “I am” statements that is missing when you say “I’m trying.”
So drop it. Even if you feel like you’re only trying, it’s not a useful way to spend your energy or to communicate.
Next time you find yourself thinking “I’m trying to do [x]…” ask yourself “What am I committed to regarding [x]?” and rewrite the statement from that space.