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Key Points

  • Kindness has ripple effects and can breed benevolence.
  • Research shows that generous acts can result in dramatic health benefits.
  • The butterfly effect of kindness demonstrates how a single act can have dramatic consequences.


Simple Acts of Kindness 

Being kind to others can boost our well-being

Scientists discovered that even simple gestures, like offering someone a cup of coffee, have the power to uplift our spirits. Surprisingly, many of us miss out on countless opportunities for kindness in our daily lives.

In a fascinating study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology by behavioral scientists Amit Kumar and Nicholas Epley explored why people tend to underestimate the value of their kind acts. 

They conducted multiple experiments with around 1,000 participants, observing random acts of kindness—selfless gestures aimed at bringing joy to others without expecting anything in return.

From writing heartfelt notes to loved ones for no particular reason to giving away delicious cupcakes, they asked both performers and recipients to share their experiences through questionnaires. 

Their aim was to understand how these acts were perceived and compared performers’ expectations with recipients’ actual experiences.

“My religion is kindness.” –The Dalai Lama


Everyone Benefits

The results were striking. Both performers and recipients experienced more positive emotions than usual. However, performers consistently undervalued their impact, while recipients felt significantly better than expected. Recipients rated these acts as more substantial than the performers themselves believed.

Their research revealed that this underestimation extended not only to familiar people but also to strangers. For instance, individuals who received hot chocolate from strangers at an ice-skating rink experienced greater upliftment than the givers anticipated. Recipients focused on the warmth conveyed by the acts more than the performers did.

Overlooking the significance of warmth in our interactions may hinder our kindness in daily life. By recognizing the unexpectedly profound impact of kind acts, like offering cupcakes, we can seize the opportunity to engage in heartwarming behaviors.

Kindness is Contagious

In another experiment, we found that people who had recently received a kind act were more likely to pay it forward to anonymous beneficiaries. The initiators of these acts often remained unaware of the ripple effect they set in motion.

These findings remind us that what may seem insignificant to us can hold immense value for those on the receiving end. Let’s choose kindness whenever possible, as it can uplift both ourselves and others, making a meaningful difference in our lives.

No kind act is too small.

  • When at a restaurant, ask for the name of your server. Write “thank you” using the person’s name when you leave a tip.
  • Surprise someone who appears stressed and let them in front of you in the grocery or pharmacy line.
  • When you have waited for an interminable amount of time to reach a customer call center only to find the representative unhelpful or curt, ask for the person’s name and say, “You must be really busy today. Thank you for taking the time to help me with this.”
  • Remember compliments are free, and true compliments shine a bright light onto others. Use them with abundance.
  • Surprise someone by sending a favorite book, poem, or small gift through the mail.
  • Bring flowers to an elderly neighbor.
  • Send a hand-written note of appreciation to someone who makes your life better.