Blaming others or holding other people responsible for things done to you that they may have little or no control over. A person who other-blames may view certain negative situations as entirely the fault of others and overlook ways in which they are contributing to the problem.

Example: She should have been more careful when she knocked over that glass bottle.

Tip: Try pretending that the person you’re blaming is a close friend and you’re inclined to be more empathetic.

Reframe: Everyone can be clumsy sometimes.

She did not do it on purpose. It was an accident.